I’ll start this off by saying that your body language and how you carry yourself is EXTREMELY important when it comes to attracting women.
Most communication is non-verbal and oftentimes, a woman will decide whether or not she’s attracted to you before you even say a word (this happens on a subconscious level).
Because of that, it’s absolutely worth spending some time to learn the ins and outs of body language as it relates to attraction and seduction.
Body language, is literally a LANGUAGE, and there’s a lot to cover. There’s no way I could even scratch the surface in an article, so I’ve picked 2 useful tips that you can apply right away and see immediate results..
Tip #1: Don’t be a “Pecker”
“Pecking” is most often seen in a nightclub when the music is loud. This makes it hard to hear the girl you’re talking too.
In this situation, inexperienced guys will LEAN IN to hear what the girl has to say. This is called “pecking”.
What that indicates is that you REALLY want to hear what the girl has to say. That’s fine and all, but keep in mind that when you’re in the nightclub, other women are taking notice.
You need to be conscious of how you’re projecting yourself to the other females in the vicinity because believe me when I tell you this; pre-selection is the biggest attraction trigger their is.
By showing that you’re “pre-selected” by other women; meaning that other women are under the impression that you’re a “wanted man” so to speak, you’ll have a much easier time with them because that’s one of the things they’re programmed to be attracted too (yes, all women).
When you’re seen leaning forward and hanging on the girls every word, from an outsiders prospective, it looks like she’s the high value/high status one and you’re working hard for her attention.
You want to flip this and there’s an easy way to do it.
Instead of learning towards her, lean straight forward and point to your ear (indicating that it’s hard to hear) and she will respond to this by learning into YOU.
Now, from an outsiders prospective, it looks like you’re the one with the high value/high status and she’s the one pursuing you.
Another example of altering your body language for the sake of attracting onlookers is to alter your position when you’re talking to a girl. For example, picture these two scenarios..
1) The girl has her back up against the wall and you’re boxing her in.
2) You have your back against the wall and the girl is facing you
From an onlookers prospective, option 2 is obviously the better position for you to be in because it makes it look like you’re the one getting hit on – essentially indicating that you’re pre-selected and of high value.
Tip #2: How To Get Her To Kiss You
There’s something to be said for just manning up and making your move on a girl regardless of waiting for signals. If you get rejected, own it, shrug it off and move on.
When you have that “I don’t give a fuck” mentality, women will be drawn to it. As we’ve discussed, this comes down to confidence..
Now, I realize that you may not be completely open to the idea of getting shot down, and that’s cool (I guess)..
There’s a way you can use body language to PRIME her for a kiss, and even get her to make a move on YOU.
You can do this by using a technique called “triangular gazing”..
Remember the 4 stages of pick up lesson? Well, you would use this technique once you’ve established rapport and are looking to move into seduction.
It involves looking from one eye to another, then looking at her mouth.
When you start looking at her mouth, you will subconsciously start to think about kissing her, because this action is already anchored to the thought of kissing someone.
Even if you look at a woman you’re not attracted to, and look at her mouth, you can start to think about kissing her, and you will become MORE attracted to her.
The good news is…the same happens for women.
The even BETTER news is…you can lead her to subconsciously start to do this and feel more attracted to YOU. How?
By using the second half of the recipe…another psychological concept called Mirroring.
Whenever we are in conversation with someone, we will mirror the leader of the conversation in an attempt to build subconscious rapport with them.
When you perfectly combine triangular gazing and mirroring, you have a combination that will make her subconsciously think about kissing you.
Here’s how to do it..
After talking with her in rapport, start to look at her mouth. At first, only for 2 seconds, then look back to her eyes. Switch between her left and right eye, then back to her mouth for a few seconds longer.
Continue to go from left to right eye and back to her mouth for 2 seconds, 3 seconds, then 5 seconds.
Eventually, you want to be mostly looking at her mouth.
When she begins to look at your mouth as well, you’ll know for sure that she’s ready to kiss you.
So again, if you’re worried about rejection, this technique can somewhat take the guesswork out of “making a move”.
You will now know with confidence when she wants to kiss you, and get to be the fully assertive but perceptive man that women find irresistibly attractive.
So there you go guys, a couple quick body language tips for you; one to enhance your social value in the club and another to entice a girl to kiss you..
Pretty cool stuff, huh?..
This is barely scratching the surface to be honest. There’s so much to learn in regards to body language, and surprisingly, it’s something that 95% of people completely overlook.
When you understand body language, you’ll be able to..
- Tell when people are lying to you
- Tell when a girl finds you attractive
- Alter your walk, talk and overall persona to TRIGGER attraction
- Influence people in positions of power to climb the ranks in society
.. the list goes on!
Interested in learning more?
I actually picked up the “triangular gazing” tip from this course, which is the program I usually recommend to beginners who are looking for a solid starting point. I’ve mentioned that before though.
In case you’re wondering, the main reason why I suggest that course specifically (out of the dozens that I’ve read over the years) is because it covers the 4 stages of pick up, as well as the concept of demonstrating value and “pre-selection” in so much detail.
The more you understand these concepts, the more attractive you’ll be to women. It’s really that simple.
There’s also a section in it called “body language mastery”, which covers the little changes you can make RIGHT AWAY that will have a huge impact on how you’re perceived.
Actually, it covers a lot more than that. There’s over 10 hours of video content in there. It’s epic!
It’s crazy how slightly altering the way you walk, or even the position of your shoulders, can trigger a NOTICEABLE difference in how many girls check you out when you’re walking through the mall.
Does it matter if you’re good looking? Obviously it helps, and anyone who denies that is bullshitting you..
But… here’s the thing..
Making body language adjustments is one of the quickest and easiest ways to improve your physical appearance.
You remember how important confidence is, right? In case you forgot, it’s almost EVERYTHING!
You can subliminally communicate confidence to women via your body language!
It’s crazy to me that most guys don’t take the time to study this stuff.
Guess that’s a good thing though, it just makes it so much easier for guys like us who actually do.